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More advice for dealing software people: if you offer an idea or suggestion to "debaters" (see previous blog entry), and they poke a dozen holes in it, that means that they're interested in it. Try to imagine that they are trying to help you, because many times this is their way of doing that.
To move from debate into dialog, ask them to how to resolve one of the problems they just brought up. This will (if they are interested) switch their mode to "problem-solver", which is one of their favorite modes.
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