I sorted out most issues i have had with the handling of my 3ware-debian-installation kernel and the installation of VMware server. The trouble i had with the vmware server instal was mainly due to the fact that vmware server is a binary compiled with 32 bit support. I am running a debian in AMD64 mode. This caused missing libraries because all x11 related libs were 64 bit on my system. After installing a debian package aimed for 32 bit compatability, things worked fine. This was another greate experience because it tought me much about the handling around shared objects and all these tools like lsmod and how the linker works in general in linux. Perhaps i really should take an LPIC linux exam, just to see how much my linux skills increased over the last weeks :)
So right now i am setting up all my linux guests (and one windows guest, i must admit). The only problem remaing is the missing vmware client console for Mac. So it seems i have to solve the remote X11 issue to the linux VMserver server to use the installed linux console under x11 on this machine. I tried it for 10 minutes and failed of course.